You’ve more than likely heard this,
Argue for your limitations, and they’re yours
…which is to say,
If you defend why you can’t do/be something, you’re absolutely right
We all do it, though. We actively defend staying with what we know. We even resist when others are offering us solutions or ways forward.
We say things like:
- It’s too late for me to change
- My problems are too difficult / more difficult than yours
- I’m waiting for a sign
- I’m waiting for another sign
- I don’t have the [money, time, support, resources]
- I’m too [tired, confused, overwhelmed, sad, depressed, unsure]
- I can’t
- I’m a mess
- I have no clue where to start
- I’m waiting for a full moon, an eclipse or Venus transit
- I’m alone / I’m never alone
- I am too busy
- I’ve tried it before and failed
- I can’t because I have kids
- You don’t know what [I’m going through, have been through]
- I’m not worth it
- I don’t deserve [love, support, care, money, recognition, success]
- I don’t have enough [love, support, care, money, recognition, success]
- Nobody is interested in what’s happening for me
- I don’t have the skills or knowledge
- It works for you, but not for me
- I’m too [sick, old, young, fat, thin, educated, uneducated]
- I’ll be rejected
- I’m too scared
- I don’t have the willpower
- It’s not fair
- There is no point
- Nothing ever [changes, works for me]
- It’s different for me
Our arguments come from the decisions we made regarding past events, and we keep dragging them into the present and polluting it and our potential. We settle. We say, ‘There’s always tomorrow.’
But is there?
We argue out of fear: We fear the unknown. We fear failure. We fear pain. We fear letting go of our comforts. We fear success. And so we resist with a water-tight defense like we went to Law School!
What we don’t realize is that we are broadcasting all the time that what we say we want, doesn’t really matter enough to us. Not really. Not enough for us to act and reinvent so we can transcend the exhaustive / exhausting arguments and defenses. And we fill our heads to the brim with them!
Is it any wonder we fool ourselves with believing we are ‘too busy’? Isn’t it more that we’re ensuring we fulfill our own prophecies?
Does Banksy ‘wait for a sign’?
Does Oprah ‘wait for a full moon’?